Dating

What You Need To Know When Dating An Older Guy

You can’t help who you love and sometimes that someone is a lot older. We’re not talking a few years, more like a minimum of ten years your senior. And even if age is irrelevant, there are things to consider carefully before getting serious so you don’t end up frustrated down the track. It’s not all bad, it’s just different. Love is full of surprises, here we shed light on what challenges you might encounter when you fall for an older guy.

They have real responsibilities…

If it’s not kids, it’s a mortgage and if it’s not a mortgage, it’s a serious job. So don’t imagine they can drop everything to backpack around Asia with you. It’s nothing personal, they’re just managing what they’re accountable for.

So you could still be doing things solo for a while…

Like travelling or attending birthdays and couple things without him. He won’t drop his life to follow your dreams or always be by your side at the beginning, it will take some time for him completely fit into your life and likewise for you in theirs.

Your friends will be very different…

It can be harder for your worlds to completely collide when your social circles are also years apart. His friends are married with kids and yours are still finishing uni so go figure where the complications arise there.

He won’t give up much to accommodate you…

The thing about getting older, is that you develop set routines and lose that youthful spontaneity. Older men are generally stubborn, they like things done in a certain way – even at the expense of your own wants. It’s not a problem if you’re aware of his rigid approach and can gently bargain with him.

They don’t necessarily have as much energy as you…

It’s Friday night and you feel like going out last minute or it’s Saturday morning and suddenly an impromptu run seems like a good idea but you can’t convince your guy to join you. Girls quickly assume that it’s because they don’t want to partake in your interests or even worse they’re incredibly lazy. But the reason they can’t actually get a move on abruptly is that they’re energy levels aren’t the same as your youthful self.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t mean they’re ready to settle down right away…

So after reading that and putting two and two together, it would seem that older guys are preparing to settle down. Hmmm not so much. Just because they’re done with partying doesn’t mean they’re ready to get serious, they just like chilling now and are comfortable spending time alone.

He’s been around the block…

He’s lived, he’s dated (many) other girls and seen the world. And all his story-telling time will involve an ex, so grit your teeth and get through it or just change the topic asap.

Introducing him will always be a burden…

It’s going to be hard when he meets your friends and family for the first time. It’s only natural that they’ll have reservations largely linked to his age. You’ll retaliate because you’re completely besotted but do keep in mind what your parents think, especially because they’re usually right about what a healthy relationship entails.

 

Post by Jennifer Aitken.

 

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